Student Accused Of ‘Campaign Of Abuse’ Sent Boyfriend Nearly 50,000 Texts Before His Suicide

The D.A. said an investigation showed Inyoung You and Alexander Urtula’s nearly 18-month relationship was “tumultuous, dysfunctional, and unhealthy.”

Alexander Urtula [left] and Inyoung You [right] dated for 18 months before he committed suicide. You has been charged with involuntary manslaughter for his death.

The D.A. said an investigation showed Inyoung You and Alexander Urtula’s nearly 18-month relationship was “tumultuous, dysfunctional, and unhealthy.”

Photo by: Suffolk County District Attorney

Suffolk County District Attorney

By: Aaron Rasmussen

A former college student pleaded guilty to involuntary manslaughter after she was accused of inundating her boyfriend with text messages encouraging him to kill himself.

On May 20, 2019, Alexander Urtula jumped from a parking garage on the day he was set to graduate from Boston College, where his girlfriend, 23-year-old Inyoung You, also attended.

You was arrested a short time later in connection with Urtula’s death.

According to the Boston Globe, former Suffolk County District Attorney Rachael Rollins said in the two months prior to Urtula’s suicide, he and You, who had been dating for 18 months, exchanged a total of 75,337 messages. You sent nearly two-thirds of those messages, or 47,130.

In a statement obtained by USA Today, the D.A.’s office said an investigation found the couple’s relationship was “tumultuous, dysfunctional, and unhealthy” and You “engaged in deeply disturbing and at times relentless verbally, physically and psychologically abusive behavior toward Mr. Urtula.”

“You repeatedly told the victim that he should kill himself or die and waged a campaign of abuse that stripped the victim of his free will,” Rollins said, claiming the 22-year-old student’s “suicidality began only as a result of Ms. You's near constant abuse.”

The Daily Beast reported one message You allegedly sent Urtula reads that he should do “everyone a favor and go f***ing kill yourself, you're such a fucking stupid ass worthless s***.”

On the day he took his own life, NBC Boston reported that prosecutors said Urtula texted his girlfriend and wrote, in part: “I’m happy I got to spend my last night with you. I love you Inyoung until my last breath.”

In December 2021, You accepted a deal prosecutors offered after “close consultation with the Urtula family,” and she pleaded guilty to involuntary manslaughter, Reuters reported.

You received a two-and-a-half-year suspended prison sentence and 10 years of probation, according to the publication.

She also agreed to complete 300 hours of community service, undergo mental health treatment, and forgo any financial profit from the facts of her story while she’s on probation.

You’s attorney said his client was deeply remorseful for the “involuntary role” she may have played in her boyfriend’s death, according to NBC Boston.

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