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After the Obsession: Kathleen

posted: 03/18/14
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Kathleen testifying in court.
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How has your life changed since your experience?

I am not sure if my life has "changed" as much as taken a different path than it would have had I not had this experience. I truly believe your path is your path, you end up where you are supposed to be. I am very thankful and appreciative that my life experience has turned into my life's passion: helping people stay safe from crime. Believe it or not--I wouldn't change a thing.

Why did you decide to tell your story?

My story has been in the media quite a bit over the years. I have done dozens of interviews, talk shows, etc. I really was not interested in doing any more interviews about the incident. I have moved on with my career in the television industry as a crime prevention/personal safety specialist. I really wasn't interested in rehashing "old news." But, I felt there was something different about the producers and director of this show, along with their vision of how they wanted to tell the story. I believed that they would not "exploit" the victim, which a lot of these reality shows tend to do.

Once they explained how they planned on shooting the segment, I felt that it was something I wanted to do, for my children--for posterity.

I wanted to have something that my children could watch and see a significant part of my life explained/recreated before they were born. Something that they could pass on to their kids, and so on and so on...kind of a keepsake of their Mom/Future Grandma (did I really just call myself a grandma?)

Any big life events you'd like to tell us about?

I am very excited to announce the launch of my Safety Chick Kits sponsored by SABRE Security Equipment Corporation. SABRE is the largest manufacturer/distributor of Defense Sprays, and I have teamed up with them to create a line of Safety Chick personal safety products for retail. This has been a dream and goal of mine since I started Safety Chick Enterprises in 2003. Look for the Safety Chick Kits at a retailer near you soon!

Are there any organizations that helped you after/during your experience?

For current victims or for general information on Stalking, The National Center for Victims of Crime (NCVC) is still one of the best resources out there.

The Association of Threat Assessment Professionals (ATAP) is made up of the top security/Threat Assessment experts in the world, they continue to study and develop ways to keep potential victims safe from stalkers.

Any words of advice based on your own experiences?

If you feel you are being stalked, DO something about it. You need to make it clear to your stalker that you want NO further contact with them of any kind. Once you have done that, and they keep contacting/harassing you, take notice.

1. Save ALL evidence, emails, texts, voice mails, notes, anything that the stalker gives you.

2. Keep a log/calendar of all incidents.

3. Document everything--try to get video if possible. Install a camera outside your home.

4. File a police report for EVERY. SINGLE. INCIDENT.

To prove a case for Stalking you must provide a "laundry list" of behavior. The more you can provide to police, the better.

What I learned after being stalked for almost 15 years is that living in fear is NOT the answer. Taking control of the situation by learning how to protect your home, personal information, and most importantly yourself, gives you power. Becoming your own "case detective" and working with police to help get rid of your threat makes you feel productive, empowered, and confident.

What are your plans and hopes for the future?

My plan and hope for the future is that the Safety Chick Brand becomes a household name and my products will be available to women in retail stores across the country. I will continue to help educate and empower people on how to stay safe from crime and make SMART personal safety choices. If I can prevent one person from becoming a victim it will all be worth it.

Anything else you would like to share...

Caring about your Personal Safety is the Greatest Gift that you can give yourself.

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